You’ve just brought your newborn home.
You’ve made so many plans on how you want to feed your baby and as was advised by the doctor, you have promised to only breastfeed your precious newborn baby for the first 6 months, which means no soother and no additional treat.
The very first night you nurse your baby, it was all fun and loving.
But the next week your baby only cries and cries and nursing won’t stop the cry. You tried everything but the more you try, the louder the baby cries.
What to do, what to do? Should you be patient and once again try to nurse the baby?
Could it be that really, nothing you have tried so far helps and will help calm that crying baby?
You hear that little voice, it is whispering telling you that maybe a soother might help.
You shake it off and try again cuddling and singing again because you have promised yourself to breastfeed for the first 6 months; but whatever you do, that baby keeps just won’t keep quiet.
Now you’re fed up, you take a look at that soother, you put it in your baby’s mouth and don’t look back. Surprisingly the baby keeps calm and sleeps like never before.
And obviously, something like this has happened to so many parents on this planet. Many parents wonder if they should use a pacifier (because they are afraid of the consequences it might have) or just use other methods like singing and cuddling to keep the baby quiet.
This stuff goes through the heads of a lot of parents in the world.
But what to do about it, and how to feel better about yourself if you finally decide to use a soother.
In recent years there were many debates over this, but, every parent should know that it is a personal decision.
While some parents view the pacifier as a device of comfort when nothing else can keep their pumpkin pie quit, others deliberately give the soother the side eye and swear to never give it to their child.
Every parent is different and every parent has their own fears and questions. Some parents are worried that their child could become dependent on the soother, some worry that it might cause nipple confusion which has been proven to be untrue, or that it could harm teeth and jaw development or delay speech development and some others worry that it might interfere with their attempt to establish a breastfeeding routine or worry about their supply.
But what to do if you have a baby that is very fussy, you know the great night sleepers, but during the day they barely take naps and demand your attention constantly? In such a case, a dummy may fix your problem (do know that not all babies want a dummy).
Plenty of babies will take the dummy, but still, spit it out if that is not what they want. Even between pediatricians and dentists, it is a debate whether a pacifier should be used or not. Some pediatricians will advise you to go for it but will not be recommending it to newborns, while some will totally discourage the use of a pacifier.
One such is Dr. Mark burhenne DDS founder of Askthedenstist.com Dr. Burnhenne Says:”the use of a pacifier is worse than bottle-feeding. They do more damage because they reside inside the mouth while the muscular action of sucking occurs. Unfortunately, there is no pacifier that is able to mimic the stretching/deforming action of a mother’s nipple. Hence, the oral development of a child is altered as he/she develops”.
He continues with:
“I hate having to say this to my female patients, as it’s so unfair that they are burdened with it, especially when they are working professionals, but breastfeeding is perhaps the single most important thing you can do for your child in the first 1-2 years of their life”.
Dr. Mark Burnhenne is currently writing a book in which he will further enlighten people on the use of a pacifier.
But some pediatricians will argue that sucking is a totally natural reflex, and many babies practice it in the womb even before they were born. Non- nutritive sucking is, therefore, a normal part of the development process that is comforting to children well into their first year of life.
However, many speech pathologists recommend stopping with a pacifier at age 1. At this age, much important speech and language learning opportunities are occurring rapidly. This is the period where the opportunities to babble and speak and to develop speech and language skills are very high.
Using the pacifier too much during this time may decrease the likelihood of your child babbling and speaking.
But far worse than this, is if the child attempts to babble while sucking a pacifier, the likelihood increases that your child’s speech will be distorted. Even though there is a lot of confusion surrounding this matter there are also a lot of pros of using a pacifier as is stated by the mayo clinic:
- Pacifiers have a soothing effect on babies: Some babies are happiest when they’re sucking on something. Sucking undoubtedly helps calm a baby for a period of time, which is why pacifiers are so popular.
- Most babies will be temporarily distracted by a pacifier: A pacifier might come in handy during and after shots, blood tests or other medical procedures.
- A pacifier might help your baby fall asleep: If your baby has trouble settling down, a pacifier might do the trick.
- A pacifier might ease discomfort during flights: Babies can’t intentionally “pop” their ears by swallowing or yawning to relieve ear pain caused by air pressure changes. Sucking on a pacifier might help.
- A pacifier might help reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS): Sucking on a pacifier at nap time and bedtime might reduce the risk of SIDS. If you’re breast-feeding, wait to offer a pacifier until your baby is 3 to 4 weeks old and you’ve settled into an effective nursing routine.
- Pacifiers are disposable.When it’s time to stop using pacifiers, you can throw them away. If your child prefers to suck on his or her thumb or fingers, it might be more difficult to break the habit.
- Preterm babies gain weight faster-proven medical benefits linked to pacifiers have been seen in preterm babies. Preemies who suck on binkies gain weight faster and they show earlier sucking patterns and experience fewer health complications if they use the pacifier shortly after birth. Keep in mind that this only applies to preterm babies; it might have the opposite effect on a baby that was carried full term.